Helping a Client Find Discrepancies in Thoughts and Actions

How would you help your client struggling to find a work-life balance explore alternative meanings of messages and discrepancies in thoughts and actions?

Imagine the following scenario: A spouse reports that they are always working, and he or she indicates that they will be spending more time with their family, but after repeated attempts, no change has been made. Identify the conflict by observing the mixed messages, discrepancies, or internal or external conflict. Point out the discrepancies in your own view and words in a tentative fashion. Evaluate the effectiveness or response.