Couple violence is often referred to as domestic violence because it presumes that people face sexual, physical, or moral abuse from their partners. Couple violence is closely connected to an unequal dynamic of power in which one partner tries to control the life of the other.
This means that among the causes of aggressive behaviors are misunderstandings and the absence of desire to work on imperfections. It is almost impossible to define a potential abuser at the beginning of the relationship because they do not show their abusive traits if the emotional bond is yet unstable or not formed.
However, there still is little possibility of defining a potential abuser because all of them stick to the same behavioral patterns. As a rule, in abusive relationships, violence is compensated by gifts, promises to stop, and endless apologies. Moreover, the desire to keep their partners under control often makes abusers isolate them from their friends, hobbies, families, or jobs and make their partners guilty of wanting more freedom.
Society and culture often normalize or romanticize abusive relationships, and many people, especially teenagers, see them as something normal or even cool. Classical stories of Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare or Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier or films and series often show abuse as something normal or even attractive. That is why people do not see abusive traits in their partners, considering them to be manifestations of love and care.